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Chapter 6: Shaving the Mirror – Why It Never Works

Danit Doron

This blog is about getting to know ourselves, with how our minds work, which are the only ones we can really get to know. And we are not about blame, blame has never led to substantial results. We are in the business of an honest and brave observation to see where the suffering, the pain, the discomfort in our lives comes from. We are interested in what will bring us happiness and a life of satisfaction, and you know, one of the sayings I connect with the most is attributed to Albert Einstein, and paraphrased it defines: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” So the invitation here is to do something different.

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Chapter 5: Why Expectations Are Really Bad for You

Danit Doron

Because you see, the point is that the mere fact that I express a certain idea, does not really obligate the other party to act on that same idea. This is a huge mistake that we all fall into – certainly as parents, teachers and spouses. Now, this certainly does not mean that I cannot set boundaries in case of a clear violation of acceptable behavior – acceptable according to my own standards or the group’s. But expectation introduces a completely different element. expecting something from someone is, in other words, taking my happiness, or at least my momentary peace of mind, and put it in the hands of the other party.

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Chapter 4: How to Teach Self-Compassion – Part 2

Danit Doron

If I accept myself as I am, I will never improve. And this mistake is so common. Even among adults like us, who have already experienced a thing or two in our lives, certainly among teenagers. Because you know, in everything we do, we are motivated by fear or love. Unfortunately, most of the time we are motivated by fear, and we have a pretty good evolutionary reason. Evolutionarily, if we weren’t good enough, we didn’t survive. The familiar story of Fight, Flight, Freeze. But that was a long time ago. Today the one who fights for his survival is our ego, our “survival” is purely psychological. But it is no less strong and powerful. Never underestimate the power of the ego, it doesn’t let reality get in the way.

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Chapter 3: How to Teach Self-Compassion – Part 1

Danit Doron

So first, does it really work for us, this self-judgment? Does it really spur us on to be better? There are always those who insist it spurs them on to try harder, to achieve more, but that is not my question. After all, at the end of the day, we want all these things that we strive so hard to achieve because we believe they will make us happy (which is a question for investigation in another session). This self-judgment, which at least as I experience it when it rears its head, or as my dear students report, can be harsh and cruel, does it really contribute to my happiness? And in general, can I really compare myself to others? Do I know what is really going on in their minds? Was I born with the same tendencies, beliefs, skills or abilities so that there is some external parameter by which I can really compare us?

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Chapter 2:Just Like the First Time – Life with a Beginner’s Mind

Danit Doron

We really like to be “experts”. We love this place where we “know” and “understand”. And, the double quotes are not accidental. But the more we “know”, the less open we are to experiencing what life offers us, and we simply recycle the life we’ve already lived. as simple as that. It is very convenient to run back to our stories about ourselves and others – it is familiar, it is safe, and even if the stories are unpleasant, they are ours. But the invitation is to do exactly the opposite. Don’t be afraid to let go of the stories, and come to the world, and to every interaction it offers to us, with a beginner’s mind. Because from there you can start learning, growing. And this is what life is all about, really.

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Chapter 1: What is Mindfulness Anyway?

Danit Doron

Our brain changes all the time – according to our life experiences, our thoughts, the actions we take. So we actually practice all the time – not just on the meditation cushion. At every moment we grow, cultivate, strengthen something – tendencies, thinking patterns and more. Basically, we grow and nurture who we will be. And so the question is: what do we want to grow? Who do we want to be?